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Lena Dunham On Being Disappointed When She Discovered She Wasn’t a Lesbian (And How Happy She Was When She Found Her Sister Was)

Lena Dunham On Being Disappointed When She Discovered She Wasn't a Lesbian (And How Happy She Was When She Found Her Sister Was)

We get shit for posting too much about Lena Dunham (though it’s really only been twice), but her speech this Monday when she was honored by the Point Foundation (an organization that helps LGBTQ students overcome obstacles to complete their educations) is case in, uh, point as to why we love her so much — and reason enough for us to post about her yet again. 

After starting things off with a good old fashioned (if slightly tired) joke about both her history dating gay men and how aesthetically pleasing they tend to be — “This is probably the most attractive room I have yet to enter. I don’t want to traffic in stereotypes, but gay men clean up real good, which is probably why I have dated so many of you” — she talked about her progressive parents, her love for her lesbian sister, and her own disappointment in realizing she was straight, and it was just plain perfect:

“I have always felt a strong and emotional connection to members of the LGBTQ community. It was actually a huge disappointment for me, when I came of age and realized that I was sexually attracted to men. So when my sister came out, I thought, Thank God, someone in this family can truly represent my passions and beliefs…. My sister Grace coming out as a gay woman at age 17 was a huge turning point for me in my understanding of the issues facing LGBTQ people. We were raised in an environment—the art world of downtown Manhattan—where no one hid their sexual orientation, and a common question from four-year-old me was ‘Mom, are those ladies gay together?’ I was always very jealous of any child who had two dads. And because of our parents’ deeply held commitment to acceptance and equality, my sister’s process of coming to terms with her sexuality was as angst-free as anything involving sex can really be. She was assured by the adults in her life that she was not only accepted, but adored for who she is. I am so happy that this is the way she was able to enter the world as a woman and an LGBTQ person.”

We’re so happy you were able to enter the world as the woman and LGBTQ ally you are, Lena. 

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