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An Open Letter To The Privileged Gays of the World For 2016

An Open Letter To The Privileged Gays of the World For 2016

So this is the final post on this blog, because our editor Peter Knegt is leaving. You can read his thank yous and goodbyes here, but as an official finale we decided to all team up and try and offer some constructive criticism to the privileged gays of the world going into 2016 and beyond. Maybe none of this applies to you, which is gaymazing. Though even most of us were guilty of a solid half of them, and we too want to go into next year making the world just a little bit better for us all..

1. Mind your Instagram. Sure, all those pics of you with your shirt off in the mirror might get 10x the likes of anything else you post, but they probably also help nourish the body dysmorphia complexes of half your followers. Before you post anything on the ‘gram (or anywhere else for that matter), ask yourself: Who is this post serving? If the only answer is you and your need for attention, don’t press publish.

2. Delete all the dating apps. You don’t need them, they are wasting your and other people’s time, and they are making you and/or others feel shitty and desperate. Re-add them when you travel, though, cause everyone needs a tour guide.

3. Go to a fucking gay bar. They need you to exist, and a lot of the great ones died this year. Imagine a world without gay bars? Things are boring enough as it is.

4. #stopusingstupidfuckinghashtags. Which is almost all hashtags, but especially #gaybrunch.

5. Spend some time with LGBT people that don’t look/act like you. Can we seriously put an end to the insane amount of racism, ageism, transphobia, fatphobia and internalized homophobia in the gay “community”? It’s disgusting. And even if you thankfully already do this — get rid of the assholes in your life who are incapable of it.

6. Fuck outside the box. Because you probably don’t actually have “a type.”

7. Spend some time offline. That means no phone, too. Like for at least an hour or two a day.

8. Read more. Like when you’re having those offline hours (and yes, we mean books and here’s a good start)

9. Support good LGBT artists, films, TV shows, music, plays, books, performances, festivals. But don’t just support them because they are LGBT.

10. Find some self-awareness. The lack of it in the air right now — probably in part because of the internet and social media — is an epidemic. Face yourself, know yourself, and stop making everything about yourself.

That’s all. And thanks for reading!

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